If your guy won't make it "Facebook Official", will that sound an alarm and send you running in the opposite direction?
That was this week's topic on Girl Talk with Melissa from The Weekender.
"He must be hiding something!"
"He doesn't want to commit!" "He wan't to keep the door open for someone else."
That's what I heard from the other side of the studio. Was I going to be the lone voice again on this issue?
What happened to trust in a relationship? Aren't words enough? Why is a simple status on social media in front of hundreds of followers you probably couldn't pick out of a police line up more important than anything said face-to-face?
And to my surprise...a few of you agreed with me!!!
Wish we had more time for this issue.
Here's a few of your texts--
*I don't like changing statuses until I've told all the important people in my life. Family gets a little crazy when they find things out over facebook. And then you get a million comments. Maybe he's not ready for EVERYONE he knows to know. *Changing your relationship status on facebook is the kiss of death for relationships
*If it was important to him then yeah, Bc I Iove him. But one of the reasons I love him, Is bc insignificant things like Fb do not matter to him.
*It's for teens to post statuses about relationships. It's what they do. If you are over 20 something, I would think it's weird. But they are the ones who grew up w/ it....so...it's all about validation. I call ppl on fb validation whores.....they can't live without other ppl opinions.
*I say BS. The guys who won't post their relationship status are trying to keep their options open
*The people who are important, know you`re in a relationship. It shouldnt matter if your 500 "friends" that you dont even know or talk to do.
*I'm a 17 year old high school student who used to use Facebook religiously, so take it from me when I say putting your relationship status on facebook is nothing but trouble. Someone always has something to say.
*No offense Rocky most guys ARE asses & they probably don't want to change it so they can cheat!
*(Im a girl!-32) I agree with Rocky!!! I've been in a relationship for ten yrs and I have no idea if my gf ever changed her status... and I dont care!
*I am a female in my 20s and have been dating my boyfriend for a year. We are not "Facebook official" and we are both completely okay with that. I don't think I need to validate my relationship with all those people on Fb.
*If you trust your significant other then no it's not important. The people who think it's important are the ones who don't trust them & think they are hiding something if they don't announce it to the world on fb.
*I can see where you guys are coming from But facebook isn't everything in a relationship, if a guy or girl doesn't have fave fb it doesn't mean they are cheating or hiding something it just means they probably don't want it and don't want to be in all the drama... Especially guys bc a lot of guys just don't want to deal with fb stuff
*Rocky I agree with you, fb official should mean nothing. However it is no use for to try and be the islands of sanity in the ocean of social media.
*I dont see the issue, i had several relationships at the same time and they all thought they were the one "one" i was referring too!!! :)
THANKS for making it another AMAZING year on the radio. Lots of great memories. Here's a few of my favorite pics from 2014.
Merry Christmas & Happy New Year to you & yours.
I can't wait to do it again in 2015.
"Kids for Cash" directer Robert May at the WB Movies 14 premiere. This important documentary and Oscar hopeful is now available on DVD.
Hanging with one of my favorite local TV people, WNEP's Sharla McBride. We helped judge National Anthem singers for the Scranton/Wilkes-Barre Railriders. At this point, we heard one too many renditions!
March is WORLD FAMOUS for the Scranton St. Paddy's parade. Even when people move away from NEPA, they always find their way back for the big parade. This year I ran into former morning show intern Snuggy.
And while we're talking interns...check out Intern Ashley. We brought in Clyde Peeling's Reptiland to help her overcome her fear of snakes. It doesn't appear to be working.
At the finish line of the 3rd Annual St. Mary of Mount Carmel School 5K in Dunmore with Liss & Fast Freddie. One of us could use some oxygen!
Celebrating the West Side Little League's 75th Anniversary with Olympians Stephanie Jallen & Jayson Terdiman.
Rollercoaster screams. Big Brother/Big Sister day out at Knoebels.
Rocky & Lissa listeners getting FANCY for Iggy Azalea!
The WWE's The Miz in the KRZ studio.
Save the Boobies at our annual Bras Across the Bridge, Kirby Park, Wilkes-Barre.
Trying to impress WBRE's Jasmine Brooks with my giant carrot at the St. Vincent DePaul Soup Kitchen.
One of the coolest & nicest people we met all year...Mary Lambert at "Let it Show".
Look up AWESOME in the dictionary and this is what you will find! Liss and I can't THANK YOU enough. We had another AMAZING group of volunteers this year helping to do the prep work at the St. Vincent DePaul Kitchen in Wilkes-Barre.
We've made so many friends over the years. And so many of you come back every year to help.
Thanks to the following businesses that helped out:
--PA American Water
--Timber Ridge Health Care
--River Run Rehab & Nursing
--Cornell Store Front
--McCabe Mortgage Group
Don't forget. The St. Vincent DePaul Kitchen is ALWAYS looking for help. If you'd like to volunteer, call the kitchen at 570.829.7796. You can also drop off non-perishable food donations at 39 East Jackson St, in Wilkes-Barre.
And thanks again for giving back to our community.
Carrie Underwood recently revealed how she found out the gender of her baby. Instead of having her baby doc tell her & her hubby, she had the doctor write down the sex of the child and seal it in an envelope.
"[The doctor's office is] kind of a sterile place," Underwood explained to ABC News Radio. "We got to see all the pictures and everything. It was really cool to see that, but whenever she'd get near, near those parts we would look away."
Later that night, Carrie and her husband opened the envelope at a restaurant and celebrated. Cool idea, don't you think?
Here's a few other GENDER REVEAL ideas suggested by our listeners.
--We are planning on doing a gender reveal with mashed potatoes on Thanksgiving. Blue potatoes under a layer of white ones.
--My sister just found out what she was having. She lives in Florida so she sent us a box in the mail and when we opened it there was pink packing peanuts, under that was a box with a blue Christmas ornament that said it's a boy on it
--I saw this one thing where you wear a white shirt and dip your hands in the color paint and make your hands in to a heart on the shirt
--Take the paper to a baker have him make a blue or pink cake then when you cut it u know the sex
--My friend had the answer baked into a cake. The cake was frosted pink and blue. The only way to find out was to eat the cake. We had a party & served the cake to get the answer. It was a girl!
--the newest rage is gender reveal party
--I recently found out I was having another boy. So for my FB post to reveal the gender I had my hubby take a picture with one of his ties over my baby bump.
--If money is no object, I hear they can change the color of the lights on the Empire State Building!
And sometimes the gender reveal doesn't always go as planned!
This text from a listener caused a lot of talk on the show this morning.
Hey Rocky & Lissa!
Thinking of moving in w/ my BF. But he keeps promising to marry me & it's been 5 yrs. I wanna say "no ring, no moving forward." Is that ultimatum TOO RISKY?
Remember the scene in "The Dark Knight" where The Joker gets interrogated? That's what I think of when I hear the word ULTIMATUM. It's the good cop/bad cop routine...but in this case it seems like there's only a bad cop! If you have to shine a light in your guy's eyes to get him to commit, maybe it wasn't meant to be.
Here's what our listeners had to say about issuing an ultimatum.
--I was with my husband for 7 years before we got married. I kind of gave up on waiting for him to pop the question and then it happened when I didn't expect it. If you love him don't give up on him. -Jess
--I think she should not give the ultimatum but she should stick it out for the three next holidays: Christmas New Years and Valentines Day. If no ring after that say goodbye and move on. You don't want to think did he do this himself or did i make him. -Crystal
--Agree w/the last caller that this relationship will never work but more because of their lack of ability to communicate w/each other. Does he know how important this is to her? Has she even expressed this to him? She needs to talk to the man she wants to marry instead of asking strangers for advice.
--I do not understand the lax attitude toward marriage by the woman that called in who had FIVE kids with the guy she finally married. Forget the "it's just a piece of paper" argument for a minute and think about it legally for a minute. God forbid she is inquired, in the hospital and unable to make a medical decision...he has no say. He's her baby daddy, that's it. Do the kids have his last name? If it's good enough for them why not her?
--If it was going to happen it would have happened? U can't force marriage or a man to marry you. But they should have been living together already? He's just stringing her along because no man likes to be alone but yet he's not being man enough to marry her? Get rid of him and move on. They’re on two different pages.
--Ultimatums are ridiculous ! Just live your life. It's too short. Stop worrying about the small stuff. My god there's so many other things to worry about in life. Marriage should be the last.
--I just think they need to talk. If they don't both want the same thing then it may be time to reevaluate the relationship.
--She doesn't want to give him an ultimatum because even if he listens and proposes it will only be because he feels backed into a corner. In that case he would most likely just keep pushing off the wedding at that point.
--I've been withy husband 9 years and I'm tired of telling him how to make me happy if he can't do it on his own.
--I have been with my man 24 years. He promised to marry me years ago and still nothing. It’s just a piece of paper.
--I told my boyfriend of 2 years that I wasn't happy with never getting married and he broke up with me.. because it wasn't what he wanted.. I would be careful with ultimatum.
--If she needs to give this man an ultimatum of we get married or we break up then that's the end of the relationship if you have to tell somebody to do something then you don't need to be with them isn't the point of dating to end in marriage I don't understand what the big problem is if you have to tell him you need something then just walk away
--Some men are scared and need that push.
--If he doesn't he want to lose her then he would make a commitment if he doesn't care then you just let her go.