If your guy won't make it "Facebook Official", will that sound an alarm and send you running in the opposite direction?
That was this week's topic on Girl Talk with Melissa from The Weekender.
"He must be hiding something!"
"He doesn't want to commit!"
"He wan't to keep the door open for someone else."
That's what I heard from the other side of the studio. Was I going to be the lone voice again on this issue?
What happened to trust in a relationship? Aren't words enough? Why is a simple status on social media in front of hundreds of followers you probably couldn't pick out of a police line up more important than anything said face-to-face?
And to my surprise...a few of you agreed with me!!!
Wish we had more time for this issue.
Here's a few of your texts--
*I don't like changing statuses until I've told all the important people in my life. Family gets a little crazy when they find things out over facebook. And then you get a million comments. Maybe he's not ready for EVERYONE he knows to know.
*Changing your relationship status on facebook is the kiss of death for relationships
*If it was important to him then yeah, Bc I Iove him. But one of the reasons I love him, Is bc insignificant things like Fb do not matter to him.
*It's for teens to post statuses about relationships. It's what they do. If you are over 20 something, I would think it's weird. But they are the ones who grew up w/ it....so...it's all about validation. I call ppl on fb validation whores.....they can't live without other ppl opinions.
*I say BS. The guys who won't post their relationship status are trying to keep their options open
*The people who are important, know you`re in a relationship. It shouldnt matter if your 500 "friends" that you dont even know or talk to do.
*I'm a 17 year old high school student who used to use Facebook religiously, so take it from me when I say putting your relationship status on facebook is nothing but trouble. Someone always has something to say.
*No offense Rocky most guys ARE asses & they probably don't want to change it so they can cheat!
*(Im a girl!-32) I agree with Rocky!!! I've been in a relationship for ten yrs and I have no idea if my gf ever changed her status... and I dont care!
*I am a female in my 20s and have been dating my boyfriend for a year. We are not "Facebook official" and we are both completely okay with that. I don't think I need to validate my relationship with all those people on Fb.
*If you trust your significant other then no it's not important. The people who think it's important are the ones who don't trust them & think they are hiding something if they don't announce it to the world on fb.
*I can see where you guys are coming from But facebook isn't everything in a relationship, if a guy or girl doesn't have fave fb it doesn't mean they are cheating or hiding something it just means they probably don't want it and don't want to be in all the drama... Especially guys bc a lot of guys just don't want to deal with fb stuff
*Rocky I agree with you, fb official should mean nothing. However it is no use for to try and be the islands of sanity in the ocean of social media.
*I dont see the issue, i had several relationships at the same time and they all thought they were the one "one" i was referring too!!! :)